hi need help challenging behaviour

[kyle181]

i have a few children

the first child...
she is 3 years of age very active and talks alot
we have 20 children a day in the room so a lot can happen..what she dose is she takes other childrens food from them and she is quick about it to before you can say her name she has already ate it. she is always hitting other children and hits carers sometimes, she eats anything paint she gets on the trolley and glue and paper, at rest time her parents dont want her to sleep cause they find it easer to put to bed at home so we let her rest for about 30 mins while the other children go to sleep while after that she gets an activity to do and if she gets off her bed or makes a noisy we take it off her and ask her to lay still for one mintue then if she is quet will give it back to her, but this seems not to work 5 seconds later she dose it again. its like we have to watch her 24/7 when she gos to the toliet before we even get in there she is doing something silly like sitting in the toliet pulling stuff down like paper towel. duiring group time she cant sit still for more than 5 mins without getting up or saying something, she runis people things by ripping them up or putting in the bin.. she trys to sneek off and go inside and get up to something th other day we had chickens in the cage she figured a way to get it open luckly we got their in time before she got them out, when we talk to her now about her behaviour she starts to cry like staying on her bed but we say there is no need to cry and she stops. when we are outside she is up to things like hitting doing dangerous things on equiment we have tryed talking to her but 5 seonds later she dose it again we have talked to the parents but them seem to not care or just say its not happening at home.. OFC its not cause there is not 20 children in your house its a different enviormnet

PLZ Help

second child
this child is a boy who bangs his head..why well we dont iknow, when its time to pack up he gets upset and finds the hardest surface to bang his head on, when somone takes something off him he bangs his head he dosnt try to get it back just bangs his head and crys, when its time to make bed he dose it again he sometimes dose group time if its a story he will sit there and listen which i was suprise by that, if it something else he wont he sit still he will walk around and if we tell hime to sit on the mat he will get upset if we take the toy off him and he will bang his head, he has started to get worse now he is now hiting other children with his head not hard but still, he will only play with certain things like bikes outside and cars inside mum has taken her to the doc and they said its normal... i have started to document it all

thanks

[Lorina]

For the first child -

Since she is taking other children's food maybe she can sit away from the group until she can sit with everyone without taking their lunch. You don't need to go and isolate her during meal times but you can maybe set her up on a table by herself and explain that she can enjoy her food with others when she can eat only her food. Also, since you are aware of this behaviour during meal times you can sit with her at her table. Talk to her and engage in conversation. Talk about what she is eating for lunch etc. Knowing you are at the table maybe she wont be tempted. You can try this first before moving her to another table.

As for her sleep are you able to take her outside. Can you get her to do some tasks around the centre... Like sorting the artwork, getting afternoon tea ready, setting up the drinks table... Maybe she is bored and that's why she isn't co-operating. Can you make a little quiet area she can sit at with some activities. This may work better than trying to keep her on the bed...

The must be a reason why she is messing around. Changes at home or boredom? Is she at the centre everyday? Does she play at the same activities? What does she like to do? Ask her what she would like to play with inside and out. Get her to choose what she wants to do... You need to find a way to engage and distract her. If she is occupied then maybe this behaviour will stop.

It seems like you are trying but don't give up even when it's this frustrating! Focus on her positives, if she is playing well tell her, if she sitting quietly on her bed let her know you noticed, encourage her throughout the day and provide positive comments to her.

See if the following articles help (available on our Wiki)

Encouraging Phrases For Children In Childcare
Behaviour Management In Childcare

Hope this helps,

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L.A

[Lorina]

For the second child...

This info may help:

http://www.drgreene.com/articles/head-banging/

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L.A