In early childhood education, our relationships with families are foundational but they’re not always easy to navigate. When a child’s behaviour begins to impact the safety or wellbeing of others, educators often find themselves caught between professional responsibility and fear of offending parents. Over time, many have grown hesitant to speak up, even as biting, pushing, and dysregulation become more frequent in toddler rooms.
Below are practical, emotionally intelligent ways to initiate these conversations with families—rooted in respect, partnership, and a shared commitment to every child’s wellbeing.
Sample Scripts for Educators
Strengths-Based Entry
“Hi [Parent Name], I wanted to share how beautifully [Child’s Name] engaged in our sensory play today—so much curiosity and joy. We’ve also noticed that during transitions, [he/she/they] sometimes finds it hard to manage big feelings, which can lead to pushing or biting. We’d love to partner with you to explore strategies that support [Child’s Name] and help keep everyone safe.”
Safety Framing
“We’re committed to creating a safe and nurturing space for all children. Recently, we’ve observed some behaviours from [Child’s Name]—like biting or pushing—that are impacting other children’s sense of safety. We understand these can be signs of frustration or overwhelm, and we’d really value your insights so we can work together to support [Child’s Name] in expressing those feelings safely.”
Collaborative Invitation
“We know every child is unique, and you know [Child’s Name] best. We’ve noticed some moments where [he/she/they] is struggling with peer interactions, and we’d love to align our approaches. Would you be open to a short wellbeing check-in so we can share what we’re seeing and hear what’s working well at home?”
Documentation-Based Approach
“We’ve been documenting some patterns in [Child’s Name]’s behaviour—especially around biting during group play. It seems to happen when [trigger]. We’d love to share these observations with you and explore strategies together. Our goal is always to support [Child’s Name]’s development while ensuring the safety of the whole group.”
Emotionally Intelligent Reframe
“We understand that toddlers often express big feelings physically, especially when they’re still learning to communicate. That said, we also have a responsibility to protect all children’s emotional and physical safety. We’d love to work with you on ways to help [Child’s Name] feel heard and supported, while reducing harm to others.”
Tips for Delivery
- Choose a calm, private moment for the conversation.
- Use gentle tone and open body language.
- Avoid blaming language—focus on shared goals.
- Offer visuals or documentation if helpful.
- Follow up with consistency and care.
Further Reading
Descriptive Words For Children's Behaviour
Supporting Children With Challenging Behaviour
Talking To Parents About Their Child's Behaviour Issues





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