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Behaviour management plan for biter

Post by Nanaliu » Thu Apr 26, 2018 9:39 pm

Hi Aussie Childcare Network,

There was a biting incident happened couple days ago.
Child A: 2.5 years old, been through a lot due to family issue. (Parent fighting)
Child B: Nearly 3, been through lots of changes (Moving houses)

Both children wanted the same double bike and had been fighting all morning. Educators offered different choices and had been coaching turn taking. However, incident did happen while the educator moved away from them to get a truck Child B really liked.

My behaviour management plan as below, however the leader educator would like me to look deeper the behaviour, like social coaching. Anyone have any resources as I tried to google, but nothing much.

** By providing many ways such as clay or play dough to mould, sand and water play to experiment with for Child A to express feelings and frustrations.
** Provide sufficient equipment, ample time and space for gross motor play outdoors for Child A.
** Spend one on one time with Child A during the day to ensure Child A feels loved and valued.
** Close supervision and assistance with positive interactions, encouraging Child A to express Child A feelings by using language.


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Re: Behaviour management plan for biter

Post by Lorina » Fri Apr 27, 2018 5:56 pm

It seems like you worked out the cause of the biting behaviour which is great! So now you have to implement techniques to stop each of the children taking out their frustrations and anger on others/ each other.

As adults there are so many times we want to lose or end up losing control when emotions get out of hand - through hitting, shouting, slamming etc. so you could imagine these little ones trying to deal with all the changes happening in their own world...

In regard to social coaching, I found the following- however you can use these ideas as an Educator instead:

Parents who become involved in their children’s social lives have an opportunity to teach social skills and can make a major difference in helping to solidify friendships. They can:

Provide Social Opportunities – if your child is not invited to many social events, then the parent has the ability to invite others to socialize with their child. For some kids, it may be necessary to forego the typical reciprocation that happens between friends where they take turns having play dates at each other’s homes. If your child is not getting the reciprocal invitation, try not to let that stop you from having the same child at your home again and again. Remember that it’s more important that your child have solid friendships than who does the inviting. Some families may not be reciprocating for reasons other than their child doesn’t want to play with your child. Everyone is busy and it takes effort on the parent’s part to schedule play dates until children are old enough to make their play dates.

Practice Social Skills with Family Members – Try some of the ideas mentioned in this segment at your next family gathering. Better to make social mistakes with family members who are likely to be more forgiving than potential friends. Fine-tuning social skills with family members is a great place to start!

Coach Your Child Prior to a Social Event – Children who don’t understand what is acceptable behavior during a social event may need to be reminded prior to attending. Children need to understand what the expectation is so they will know how to interact. For example, “Jimmy, be sure to say hello to Uncle George when you see him at Grandma’s house.”

Coach Your Child During a Social Event – Even if appropriate social behavior is discussed in the car on the way, children may need an additional, but gentle, reminder once they arrive somewhere. The excitement of being there or the anxiety over having to socialize may make it hard for children to remember the expectation. Continuing with our example, “Jimmy, did you have a chance to say hello to Uncle George? It’s been so long since he’s seen you.”

Review Social Conduct After a Social Event – Starting with the interactions that went well, praise your child after a social event and give gentle suggestions for next time. “Jimmy, I loved how loudly and clearly you said hello to Uncle George. Next time try to look him in the eye while saying hello. You know how he loves to talk with you about baseball. Great job!” With this approach, you are leading with a positive comment, suggesting an improvement, giving him something to discuss next time so he will say more than just hello, while ending with praise. The next time Jimmy will see Uncle George; you could remind him again about using baseball as a conversation topic and repeat the process.

Group Play – if one-on-one social interactions are difficult for your child, consider group activities. Your child may still have a great time, but the pressure of one-on-one interaction is lessened. Also, if other children are reluctant to play with your child, they may be more apt to play in a group. This may provide an opportunity for the other children to understand your child’s personality and make them more willing to include him or her in future get-togethers.

Provide a Structured Activity – If your child has a friend over and they are having trouble finding a play rhythm, try suggesting a few activities for them to do or even something with you. When this topic was discussed with well-known psychologist and author, Dr. Teresa Bolick, her response was to have great cookies recipes on hand! She suggested having all types of cookie recipes on hand in the event that a playmate has food allergies, diabetes or other medical issues that may baking problematic. Use Hand Signals – if you see your child repeating a common social mistake with a friend, a hand signal can send a message that a mistake is being made without embarrassing the child. For example, a child that has trouble with getting too close and invading personal space, a simple hand signal from an adult can be a reminder to give others more space.

Try to Find Others Who Have Social Difficulty – Try to Find Others Who Have Social Difficulty – The phrase “birds of a feather flock together” may apply to your child when socializing. Some kids have interests and passions that are unusual or very specific. Try to find other kids with similar interests and even challenges. Your child may find comfort in someone who is similar to them.

Guide Fantasy Play – some children have difficulty creating their own play scenarios and need guidance to get started. Caregivers can set up scenarios for play or a fantasy to be acted out.
Scavenger Hunts – scavenger hunts are a great way to engage children of nearly all ages! Caregivers simply write down clues as to where to find the next clue and so on. The last clue can lead them to a special treat or prize. Younger children’s clues can be very specific to avoid frustration (ex. Look under the couch cushions) while older children may enjoy more abstract clues (ex. Look where we relax to enjoy movies).

Scavenger Hunts – scavenger hunts are a great way to engage children of nearly all ages! Caregivers simply write down clues as to where to find the next clue and so on. The last clue can lead them to a special treat or prize. Younger children’s clues can be very specific to avoid frustration (ex. Look under the couch cushions) while older children may enjoy more abstract clues (ex. Look where we relax to enjoy movies).

Ref:Social Coaching

Hope this helps!

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Re: Behaviour management plan for biter

Post by Nanaliu » Sat Apr 28, 2018 3:25 pm

Hi Lorina,

Thanks so much for your information.
I did have that in the plan, however the child comes from a single parent family.
The child sometimes goes through a lot when parents fighting. My director hopes I can look up something deeper to coach the child how to cope with different feelings like frustration and anxiety...etc.

Understand that parents play such an important part in a child's life, so just wondering if family is the issue, anything I can do at the centre to coach and guide the behaviour.

Thank you.

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Post by Lorina » Tue May 01, 2018 2:50 pm

Doing hands-on activities to help deal with emotions is a great way for a child to release their tensions and frustrations... As you suggested previously, sensory items help a great deal such as playdough, clay, water etc. You can also create a "Calming Space" or a "Chill Zone" within the room... for any child that may feel too overwhelmed throughout the day... you can add specific activities within this area for them to calm themselves down whenever a child loses control. Some activities you can include are:

- sensory bottles (watching them)
- ripping paper
- hugging a teddy
- laying on a mat
- drawing
- popping bubble wrap
- crinkling tissue paper
- colouring
- listening to music etc.

Yoga also helps a great deal...

This will help a child to regulate their behaviour and just have time to themselves when they need it.

Hope this gives you some ideas!

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Re: Behaviour management plan for biter

Post by Lorina » Tue May 01, 2018 2:51 pm

This may also help:

Teaching Emotions

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