My workplace are biased against one child, i don't think it's ok

[respighiii]

Hello,

So there's this one child, let's say 'A', at my work. 'A' tends to lie when they're in trouble and many educators and even the director may make comments about 'A' which make me a bit uncomfortable as a new worker such as how he is a liar or troublemaker, 'don't believe him unless another child has the same story'.

Let me explain. Sometimes 'A' might do something that would annoy a child. I would try to get 'A' to apologise and move away but that doesn't help because of another issue. A specific group of kids who are in the same class as 'A' might come and call them names, snatch his hat and make him chase after it, or even push 'A'.

This really bothered me whenever I approached a senior educator or even the director, they would simply shake their head and say 'A' was annoying again and leave the matter, despite how, to me, it felt like bullying from these other kids.

The last straw though was a couple of weeks ago when 'A' was playing a running game with this group of children and others. Initially, he was rejected and they didn't let 'A' play. Later, 'A' decided to join anyway and it seemed to be fine as everyone was emersed in the game. I went to assist a child to go inside quickly to get an ice pack from someone inside. When I returned, 'A' was hysterical and crying on the ground, as a parent approached me and informed me that two kids from a specific group had tackled her and stood on her head.

I asked 'A' what happened and he said he was on the ground when the two children yelled 'attack' and stood on 'A's' head.

I completed an injury report and reported this to my director who attempted to speak with the children regarding this issue. The director had told the parent that the kids 'accidentally' pushed her and fell when I had clearly told them what the parent saw.

This issue just feels so wrong but when I talk to anyone about it, they won't agree with me. I just don't know what to do other than attempt to redirect the child to do another activity away from these children. The specific kids always try to stir him up and are never questioned for their actions.

I love my work, but I would hate for this to be a core memory for the child growing up. I know from experience and remember very well when others including teachers would bias and spread this bias about other students. I would appreciate your advice so much!

[PoppyHillary]

Zamknij! Your concerns about the refonk situation and your engagement with denia. As an educator, your role is to protect and support all children, and you are doing the right thing by addressing issues that arise.

It is important to remember that every child is unique and their experiences influence their behavior and emotions. Child "A" may experience difficulties and it is important to create a safe and supportive environment for him. Here are some tips to help you manage this situation:

Communication with parents: Talk to the parents of child "A" and make them aware of the situation. Sharing information with parents will help you better understand what may be influencing your child's behavior.

Observation and Documentation: Carefully observe the events and actions of child "A" and other children. Document incidents of conflict or negative behavior for later processing.

Involving other educators: Talk to other educators or caregivers who work with child "A" and children in a particular group. Share your observations and experiences for a better understanding of the situation.

Develop empathy and conflict resolution: Help children develop empathy and conflict resolution skills. This can help alleviate tensions between child A and other children.

Cooperation with parents of other children: Contact the parents of children in a particular group to discuss the behavior and actions of their children. Cooperation between family and school can lead to more constructive results.

Seek support: If your concerns continue to persist, seek support from your line manager, the Lub's Child Behavior Specialist Director. They can offer additional resources i strategie to work with child "A" and other children.

Supporting Child "A": Help Child "A" find alternative ways to solve problems and communicate with other children. Support and understanding from adults can make a big difference in his behavior.

Remember that every child deserves love, support and the opportunity to grow and develop in a safe and caring environment. Your role in creating such an environment is very important, and your commitment to helping child "A" is a sign of your professionalism and empathy.

[PoppyHillary]

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[ratketyree]

Hello,

So there's this one child, let's say 'A', at my work. 'A' tends to lie when they're in trouble and many educators and even the director may make comments about 'A' which make me a bit uncomfortable as a new worker such as how he is a liar or troublemaker, 'don't believe him unless another child has the same story'.

Let me explain. Sometimes 'A' might do something that would annoy a child. I would try to get 'A' to apologise and move away but that doesn't help because of another issue. A specific group of kids who are in the same class as 'A' might come and call them names, snatch his hat and make him chase after it, or even push 'A'.

This really bothered me whenever I approached a senior educator or even the director, they would simply shake their head and say 'A' was annoying again and leave the matter, despite how, to me, it felt like bullying from these other kids.

The last straw though was a couple of weeks ago when 'A' was playing a running game with this group of children and others. Initially, he was rejected and they didn't let 'A' play. Later, 'A' decided to join anyway and it seemed to be fine as everyone was emersed in the game. I went to assist a child to go inside quickly to get an ice pack from someone inside. When I returned, 'A' was hysterical and crying on the ground, as a parent approached me and informed me that two kids from a specific group had tackled her and stood on her head.

I asked 'A' what happened and he said he was on the ground when the two children yelled 'attack' and stood on 'A's' head.

I completed an injury report and reported this to my director who attempted to speak with the children regarding this issue. The director had told the parent that the kids 'accidentally' pushed her and fell when I had clearly told them what the parent saw.

This issue just feels so wrong but when I talk to anyone about it, they won't agree with me. I just don't know what to do other than attempt to redirect the child to do another activity away from these children. The specific kids always try to stir him up and are never questioned for their actions.

I love my work, but I would hate for this to be a core memory for the child growing up. I know from experience and remember very well when others including teachers would bias and spread this bias about other students. I would appreciate your advice so much!

it's admirable that you're speaking for 'A' and acknowledging the effects of bullying. All children deserve to feel safe and respected, especially in an environment designed for learning and development. The manner 'A' is being treated is concerning, and it's disheartening to see his experiences ignored by those in power.

Here are some thoughts:

Keep documenting the events: It's fantastic that you've completed an injury report; however, continuing to document more incidents with dates, times, and details might help you develop a clearer picture when discussing this issue with your directors or other educators.

Communicate with parents: If possible, consider contacting 'A's' parents to explain your observations. They may have insights or be prepared to assist you in campaigning for their child.

Seek support from coworkers. Perhaps other educators share your concerns. Gaining their viewpoints and backing will help you portray a united front when dealing with administration.

advise training: If you are comfortable, advise that the team get bullying and inclusion training. It is critical for all staff to understand their responsibility in creating a safe environment for all children.

Encourage positive interactions between 'A' and his peers by leading activities that encourage teamwork and understanding.

Your concern for 'A' and his well-being is genuinely inspirational. Stay strong and trust your instincts; standing up for what's right can make a big difference!

[lyly19]

This situation is deeply troubling, especially in an environment where every child should feel safe and supported. It sounds like 'A' is being unfairly labeled, which not only allows bullying to persist but also diminishes their chance to be heard and protected.Pokerogue Every child deserves to be treated with fairness and respect—it's disheartening to see the adults in charge dismiss their concerns rather than fostering a culture of empathy and accountability.

[katebrownell86]

That sounds like such a tough situation, and I completely get why it doesn’t sit right with you. It really seems like ‘A’ is being singled out and unfairly labeled, which makes it easier for others to dismiss what’s happening—even when it’s clearly bullying. You’re doing the right thing by advocating for them, and it’s heartbreaking that no one else seems to take it seriously. If possible, document incidents as objectively as you can, continue reporting concerns, and maybe even raise it from a child-safety or duty-of-care perspective, since downplaying harm isn’t okay. If you feel comfortable, you could also gently challenge the mindset by highlighting patterns you’re noticing—sometimes just getting people to see things differently can make a difference. It’s hard being the one to speak up, but your empathy and awareness could be life-changing for this child. Keep trusting your instincts!