Toddler Refusing To Sleep Even When She Is Tired

[chrissy201307]

A girl abt two yrs. Mum still breast feeding her. Mum said at home sleep time the child never listen to them to go to bed. One day mum drop off saying her daughter 'woke up 5:00am early morning, she can sleep today, but don't force her.'

That day she niddle-noddle during play, but after lunch when other children ready sleep, no matter what we try, she never go to bed or play quietly. She kicks, wiggles and screaming when u take her sleep; she yell and shout for attention when u let her quiet play.( the child is able to play quietly when free play) and everyday sleep time she is same. If educators strict to her, after cry, she fast fall asleep. But we feel she struggling with this way, which looks like she is forced to sleep.

The dilemma is: we believe the child need sleep. But family don't wanna 'force' her, and they haven't show formal concern yet. Shall I talk to mum or just obey family's opinion?

Ta
Wendy

[Lorina]

Does mum give the girl breastmilk to have at the centre before she sleeps?

Do you have sleep music playing during rest time?

On her bed, why don't you add some books, puzzles she can quietly play while you get the other children to sleep. Will she fall asleep by herself without you putting her to sleep?

Sorry for all the questions,

,
Lorina

[chrissy201307]

one day morning before mum dropped her off she breastfeed her daughter. not for sleep.

We do play music when rest time

Yes. We tried all toys, activities for her quiet play. But She never play on bed. just shout and yell every a while for attention, until one day one educator had to take her outside to play. Then that late afternoon she was quiet, which was not active as normal. we believe bcs she was tired then.

She never sleep by herself. And she will ask other children who ready to sleep to play with her.

By understanding of the family, We believe she may have no routine at home. Parents are happy whatever she wants. For the best of the child, what should I do? Is it appropriate to talk with mum? it sounds like I am interfering family's rearing practice.

Thanks
wenda

[linsaa fdc]

Hi Wenda,

It might sound like its interfering but you also have the rest of the group to consider who do need to sleep and so does this child. 2 years old is way too young to not sleep. We do need to take into consideration each child's needs but it sounds like this little one needs an adult to play with her the whole time. Can she go to an older room with the preschoolers and play if they don't sleep?

[chrissy201307]

Hi all,
Thanks for your contribution.
Mum showed struggling with at home handling her daughter's routine.
We set her a primary care giver, who we noticed sometimes is able to put her sleep, like today. But sometimes it is hard, she ll play as part of other non-sleepers, with one educator. So We try our best to let her rest as much as she can.

[Lorina]

Before sleeping, maybe you could do some physical activities that could tire the child out. If the child is busy and active they will more likely to sleep during the day...

,
Lorina

[ErikaDeanda]

It should be blamed for the lack of sense of security? If They don't sleep when they are tired, it is most likely because there is not enough time for parents for long hours, or he has problems with making friends. Anxiety and worry can interfere with your their sleep, just as it can prevent adults from getting a good night's sleep. A night light as a companion can help them feel more secure. but for the long run, set up a good bedtime routine is necessary.

[Nandy84]

Hello,

There may be various reasons that a child has to refuse to go to sleep. First of all, they are not aware of the fact that they are tired and sleep can give them some comfort. So, they do whatever they want to.

Try to give her comfortable wear before going to sleep. If possible, make her apart from the rest of the group and give a good sleeping track that will make her feel relaxed. Request her mom to drop her with breast milk.

Please consider the environment once.

Hope this will help you.

Thanks

Nandita