A: These are important situations where early intervention and appropriate strategies can make a significant difference in a child's development. Here's a breakdown for each question and age group:
When Children Fight Over a Toy
0-2 Years
- Intervene Gently: At this age, toddlers are still developing the concept of sharing. Calmly approach and redirect their attention to another toy or activity.
- Model Sharing Behavior: Use simple phrases like "Let's take turns," and demonstrate sharing to help them understand the concept over time.
- Provide Alternatives: Offer duplicates of popular toys to reduce conflict.
3-5 Years
- Encourage Communication: Teach children to use their words to express their feelings, such as "Can I have a turn?" or "I’m using this now."
- Promote Problem-Solving: Guide them in finding their own solutions, like setting a timer to take turns or agreeing on a sequence.
- Acknowledge Emotions: Validate their feelings but reinforce appropriate behavior, e.g., "I see you're upset, but we need to wait our turn."
When a Child Bites, Hits, or Pushes:
0-2 Years
- Stay Calm and Firm: Address the behavior immediately with a firm but calm "No biting/hitting/pushing, it hurts."
- Redirect Behavior: Offer alternative ways to express frustration, such as giving them a teething toy or encouraging gestures like pointing.
- Observe Triggers: Identify potential causes—like teething, tiredness, or overstimulation—and address them proactively.
3-5 Years
- Discuss Behavior: Once calm, talk to the child about what happened and why the behavior is unacceptable.
- Teach Empathy: Encourage them to consider the impact of their actions by asking questions like, "How do you think they felt?"
- Set Clear Consequences: Consistently apply logical consequences, like taking a short break from play, to reinforce boundaries.
When a Child Is Not Following Instructions
0-2 Years
- Keep Instructions Simple: Use clear, one-step directions that are age-appropriate.
- Engage Their Interest: Make tasks engaging, like singing or using actions to grab their attention.
- Repeat and Reinforce: Be patient and repeat instructions while modeling the desired behavior.
3-5 Years
- Clarify Expectations: Explain the reasons behind instructions in a way they can understand, such as "We need to tidy up so we have space to play."
- Offer Choices: Give them a sense of control by presenting options, like "Would you like to put the blocks away or the crayons?"
- Use Positive Reinforcement: Praise and reward compliance to motivate them, e.g., "Thank you for listening and helping!"
Further Reading
Behaviour Management In Childcare
Supporting Children With Challenging Behaviour
Descriptive Words For Children's Behaviour





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