Shyness In Children

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Shyness In Children Andy

Shyness is a feeling and a behaviour towards others. It is a personality trait, an introvert behaviour. Shyness can also be a genetic influence just like any other physical trait. Sometimes even babies are shy. We can see some babies hide their face from strangers. It can also be a learned behaviour which onsets later because of experiences. At times, shyness just prevails in a new situation and gets away ones adjusted.

Severity of Shyness

The behaviour and the characteristics of the shy child is wrongly perceived in the society. The way they carry themselves may portray them differently in the eyes of people. Most of their talents are hidden or remain unidentified. Opportunities are not reached to them because of their withdrawal tendencies.

Usually shyness is a part of some human behaviour i.e., being timid, uncomfortable in social situations and such like that. However, in some cases, shyness in extremity like obstructing from doing things we want to require professional help. Certain signs to be identified are:

  • Temper tantrums in any social situation
  • Behaving more like a baby that is, inappropriate to the age, like thumb sucking in the age of 6, babbling or trying to get held like babies etc, during discomfort or in an uncomfortable situation.
  • Self-isolation at all times.

Overt behaviours like these certainly require professional help.

Characteristics of a Shy Child

  • Social Anxiety - The presence of people brings in anxiety. A strong irrational fear exists in social situation.
  • Pessimism - Many shy people are pessimistic. Their shyness emerges from the negative thinking sometimes about themselves or others or the situation.
  • Withdrawal - These children do not participate much in the company. They prefer to be unnoticed.
  • Fear - There is a constant background of fear of what happened, what is happening and what is going to happen.
  • Low level self-confidence - the underlying quality is fear of failure, embarrassment, because of high consciousness about other things. It is also related to¬†inferiority complex.
  • Quiet - These kids do not talk much or interact with the peer group much. They remain quiet most often. However not all those who are quiet are shy.
  • Loneliness - They prefer to be alone in their own company I.e., their comfort zone is when they are on their own, the presence of people around may bring in discomfort, except for the people whom the child is always with. However, they will have an underlying thought for the need of companionship which is being resisted by fear of anxiety.

Physical Gestures of a Shy Child

Blush, feels speechless, breathless, Pit feeling in the stomach, throat dryness, sweating when in social groups. During conversation shy kids will refrain from eye contact.

Positive Qualities In Being Shy

There are cultural differences in viewing this aspect of shyness. Positive views to look at are:

  • Shy kids are good listeners as they do not speak much.
  • They have control over their behaviour in public.
  • They remain quiet and calm.

Supportive Measures

  • Approach the child like a friend and trace out the underlying problems and work on them.
  • A positive and confident approach results the same. It is important to boost the morale of the kid every now and then with positive reinforcement. Help them identify their strength and interests and be a support to exhibit the same. The success should be motivated for more trials. In case of any negative results or failure in accomplishments, refrain from being angry or upset as this might have a negative impact and make them more submissive.
  • Talk to your child about their successes and help them communicate their fears, thoughts etc. Often talking helps to deal with lots of problems.
  • Build up situations and enact it like a game or play which teaches the children to deal with inner conflicts in a fun way which them gives an idea when it comes to reality. Slowly start involving more kids in the play, initially in your presence, because they require frequent motivation.
  • It is important to set a good example. Try to be a role model and an inspiration to the children by being a confident, outgoing person. It is a foremost importance to build in the feeling of security that they are safe in the world.
  • Encourage them to socialize often by taking then to functions, parties where there involves a gathering etc. Mingling with more and more of people may slowly help them in coming out of shyness. Induce practice of social skills like assertiveness, friendliness, confidence.
  • Help them face everyday experiences with enjoyment and ease. Earlier Mental preparedness or explaining/talking about the forth coming events, location, person or situation may help.
  • Early intervention methods that expose shy children in social interaction like team sporting decreases anxiety and increases self-confidence.

Although considered to be a personality trait, shyness however is a state of mind and can be overcome if handled well at an early age itself with complete patience and encouragement from our side. Self-confidence should be replaced with shyness.

References

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shyness

http://kidshealth.org/kid/feeling/thought/shy.html

http://www.mychildhealth.net/how-to-help-children-overcome-shyness.html

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Last modified on Tuesday, January 20, 2015
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