Unpredictable Aggression
Posted: Sat Feb 01, 2025 8:09 pm
Hello everyone,
My name is Skyla and I live in regional Queensland. I have been working in childcare now for almost two years and along with that I work at the same centre that my (now 3 year old) son goes too. I hope this is the correct forum to post in about this topic.
Since my son started in childcare (age 15 months) he always had "problematic" behaviours. He was known to be a major biter, he would bite multiple children a day; mostly over sharing toys. He stopped biting when he moved in to 2 year old to 3 year old room. It seemed like the room leader in that room took the time to really invest in him and to gain to his love/respect. My son is also speech delayed; he cannot effectively communicate (mostly gibberish with some words in between. We are doing speech therapy). He has been very good in that room and recently after turning 3, he was to move in to the 3 to 4 year old room.
Transitions to new environments have always been challenging for him however after a month of learning the new room/routine he is fine. He has been in the 3 to 4 year old room now for a week and I had thought it was going well however I have been indirectly informed about him displaying unpredictable aggression in the form of pushing children over. He allegedly pushed a child over and the child seriously injured themselves as a result, management believe his strong obsession with cars had something to do with it as he is always holding one.
Now that you have the context; here is my main question:
I have been approached by assistant director asking to hold back my son and keep him in the 2 to 3 year old room where the ratio is smaller (1:5 oppose to the 3 to 4 year old room of 1:11) as they don't believe he is ready for the older room. As a parent, I do not agree with this as I feel like he is being treated differently because I am an educator and a parent. They want to hold him back for a few more months than try again.
This does not feel appropriate nor does it feel like it is helping my son as he would soon get bored of that 2 to 3 year old room and therefore may start to bite or act out more. There has been no formal documentation collected so far no observations or plan in place. No formal conversations had with me regarding how to help him with the transition.
I would love to know if anyone else has had similar experiences with a similar matter.
Thank you
My name is Skyla and I live in regional Queensland. I have been working in childcare now for almost two years and along with that I work at the same centre that my (now 3 year old) son goes too. I hope this is the correct forum to post in about this topic.
Since my son started in childcare (age 15 months) he always had "problematic" behaviours. He was known to be a major biter, he would bite multiple children a day; mostly over sharing toys. He stopped biting when he moved in to 2 year old to 3 year old room. It seemed like the room leader in that room took the time to really invest in him and to gain to his love/respect. My son is also speech delayed; he cannot effectively communicate (mostly gibberish with some words in between. We are doing speech therapy). He has been very good in that room and recently after turning 3, he was to move in to the 3 to 4 year old room.
Transitions to new environments have always been challenging for him however after a month of learning the new room/routine he is fine. He has been in the 3 to 4 year old room now for a week and I had thought it was going well however I have been indirectly informed about him displaying unpredictable aggression in the form of pushing children over. He allegedly pushed a child over and the child seriously injured themselves as a result, management believe his strong obsession with cars had something to do with it as he is always holding one.
Now that you have the context; here is my main question:
I have been approached by assistant director asking to hold back my son and keep him in the 2 to 3 year old room where the ratio is smaller (1:5 oppose to the 3 to 4 year old room of 1:11) as they don't believe he is ready for the older room. As a parent, I do not agree with this as I feel like he is being treated differently because I am an educator and a parent. They want to hold him back for a few more months than try again.
This does not feel appropriate nor does it feel like it is helping my son as he would soon get bored of that 2 to 3 year old room and therefore may start to bite or act out more. There has been no formal documentation collected so far no observations or plan in place. No formal conversations had with me regarding how to help him with the transition.
I would love to know if anyone else has had similar experiences with a similar matter.
Thank you
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