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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by linsaa fdc » Sat Jun 20, 2015 7:25 am

Go girl, good on you. People should learn to mind their own business and worry about themselves and their own problems. :thumbup:


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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Scottish Joan » Sun Jun 21, 2015 10:44 am

Thanks Linsaa, I am not having my methods of parenting criticised or Rhona getting upset.

Anyway, even when Rhona gets to the age of the girl of the parent, she will still be zipping her jacket up, she will get decide for herself by High School age but until then, she follows my instructions.

If I ever become a childminder then the kids that I look after will also be zipping their jackets too, if the parents like that or not because thats rule in my house.

In fact, I used that rule this evening when Rhona and 2 friends that are at ours for a sleepover went out to play on their bikes.

Rhona and her 2 friends, Caitlyn and Gabrielle were going to go out in the pouring rain with just t-shirts so I said to all 3 "its raining, put on and fully zip your jackets please girls", Caitlyn then remarked "But mummy lets us go out with our jackets open", I responded by saying "fair enough but with me, you have to zip them sweetheart", she looked over to Gabrielle and Rhona, Rhona had hers still open but Gabrielle had hers zipped, Gabrielle then said to Caitlyn "I think you better listen to Joan or else you might get sent back inside" so Caitlyn did zip hers which just left Rhona, so I went over to Rhona and put a hat on her and zipped her jacket right to the top and firmly said "I asked you to zip your jacket up, you ignored me so I did it for you now leave it zipped to where it is, unzip it and you go back inside, your lucky I am letting you out, its only because Caitlyn and Gabrielle are here otherwise you'd be inside doing your homework".

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Lorina » Mon Jun 22, 2015 5:50 am

It's good that you get the other girls to zip up their jackets before going outside too... You're being consistent with this issue which is what you need to do...

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Scottish Joan » Mon Jun 22, 2015 7:51 am

Yeah bit its mainly because if the other girls don't zip theirs then Rhona won't either, Gabrielle and Caitlyn understand that so will always zip theirs and then persuade Rhona to zip hers.

It usually ends up with either Gabrielle or Caitlyn zipping it for Rhona.

We have had shocking weather this weekend so when Gabrielle and Caitlyn were leaving, I told them to zip their jackets because I was worried that they'd get soaked by time they got back home, which pleased the girls parents.

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Scottish Joan » Wed Jul 01, 2015 8:37 pm

Well, at last weather has turned and HOPEFULLY Summer is here lol, last 2 days have been very hot, on Centre Court at Wimbledon, during Murray match it had a thermometer courtside which read 41C :O.

Rhona loving the heat as it means a) she can play outside in sun and b) she doesn't have me nagging her about needing her jacket zipped.

As soon as it starts raining or getting cooler in next few days or months, she knows that she will need her jacket on and zipped.

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Lorina » Thu Jul 02, 2015 7:07 am

Seems like you've all been waiting for the Summer! I'm sure it's been a long winter for you and you're all happy to see the sunshine! No more jackets at last!!

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Scottish Joan » Fri Jul 03, 2015 11:40 am

Well, looks like jackets will be back on Rhona again as it started pouring earlier on :-(. 2/3days of great weather is all we got and now its School summer holidays.

As soon as Rhona saw the downpour, she looked towards me and said "looks like my jacket will be back on soon mummy".

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by linsaa fdc » Fri Jul 03, 2015 3:13 pm

Oh no, poor Rhona :cry:

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Lorina » Sat Jul 04, 2015 5:19 am

Aww! But it's supposed to be summer holidays with bright sunny skies!

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Scottish Joan » Mon Sep 07, 2015 4:30 am

I can't get Rhona to wear her jacket at the moment which isn't ideal as winter is fast approaching :-(.

She was out on her bike with a couple of friends for about 5mins when I suddenly realised that she was out in freezing cold wet weather with a t-shirt and no jacket, so I went to the cloakroom and grabbed her favourite jacket and went outside. I went over to Rhona and said "put this on please", she said to me "but my friends don't need one on" so my response was "thats up to them but you WILL put this on or come back inside", then I put her arms out and put the jacket on, which was a struggle, then fastened it up.

I went back inside and another 5mins later, I saw that all the girls had jackets on.

But, if I hadn't forced the jacket on Rhona, then she would have been outside for over an hour with no jacket.

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Lorina » Tue Sep 08, 2015 4:17 am

You did the right thing, making her put her jacket on...Maybe she forgot because she was so busy with her friends and it didn't cross her mind to wear it.. Just have a chat with her about it once again about how you expect her to wear her jacket while she is outside...

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Scottish Joan » Tue Sep 08, 2015 1:25 pm

She did the same thing after School today, she came out of School with no jacket so I took her bag off her back and took the jacket from her bag and put it on her but she moaned "its dirty, there is mud on the sleeves" but I said "I know, I can see that but its cold so you'll just have to put up with it unfortunately" then zipped it up.

I did have a chat with her and explained a couple of things with her, 1) Even though the jacket was dirty it still should have been on and 2) due to fact its dirty, she needs to wear a different jacket until the favourite school one is washed/dried.

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Scottish Joan » Thu Jun 23, 2016 11:56 am

I am at the stage where she wont wear a jacket, even on days like today when it was chucking it down with rain :-(.

HELP lol?

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by linsaa fdc » Thu Jun 23, 2016 12:35 pm

Hi Joan,
Rhona is another year older now and you still have the jacket problem :shock: .
Maybe she needs some serious consequences, she is old enough to know the reason why she has to wear one and sometimes they just have to do what they are asked/told to do.
We have been taking our 6yo grandson to school and his teacher has a behaviour chart on the wall, the top of the chart is outstanding....great job.. middle is good day...ready to listen... and the bottom of the chart is CONSEQUENCES and the children really dread getting down to that, maybe try something along those lines, a visual reminder and follow through when you do end up at consequences. Under consequences write what they will be so she knows as she goes down the chart for not doing what you have asked her to do..... wear her jacket..... and what to expect.Always start each day at the top of the chart. Its time she realises we all have to do things in life that we don't want to do but have to do it anyway, this is one of those things for her.

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Laiorwyn » Wed Jun 29, 2016 12:28 pm

How heavy is the jacket? Some kids don't feel the cold very much. I am surprised she's still objecting, but maybe trying a lighter, water resistant jacket or shirt, or even a well fitting poncho might help. I remember not thinking much about the rain - even at 10 I'd go out into the driveway to play in the mud puddles on a cold day, just wearing shorts and a singlet. Never got sick from that - only seemed to get sick from being in the classroom with the sick kids that weren't sick enough to stay home yet.
What I do remember about the raincoat I had at the time was it was big, hot, uncomfortable and made play difficult to enjoy. I figured it was worth getting sick if I "forgot" to wear it.
At any rate, that's what popped into mind when you said she was still not wearing it. If you havent yet, try a jacket she likes at the store, or alter a rain coat to match her favourite theme (maybe an elsa patch if she likes frozen? or other decorations she likes).
I liked her argument that she didn't want to wear it because the sleeves were muddy, too. I would probably say "Well, lets get a wipe and you can brush it off!" The kids here know how to brush off their own clothes. No getting out of wearing shoes because they're dirty! Same goes for clothing.

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Scottish Joan » Thu Jun 30, 2016 8:35 am

Laiorwyn wrote:How heavy is the jacket? Some kids don't feel the cold very much. I am surprised she's still objecting, but maybe trying a lighter, water resistant jacket or shirt, or even a well fitting poncho might help. I remember not thinking much about the rain - even at 10 I'd go out into the driveway to play in the mud puddles on a cold day, just wearing shorts and a singlet. Never got sick from that - only seemed to get sick from being in the classroom with the sick kids that weren't sick enough to stay home yet.
What I do remember about the raincoat I had at the time was it was big, hot, uncomfortable and made play difficult to enjoy. I figured it was worth getting sick if I "forgot" to wear it.
At any rate, that's what popped into mind when you said she was still not wearing it. If you havent yet, try a jacket she likes at the store, or alter a rain coat to match her favourite theme (maybe an elsa patch if she likes frozen? or other decorations she likes).
I liked her argument that she didn't want to wear it because the sleeves were muddy, too. I would probably say "Well, lets get a wipe and you can brush it off!" The kids here know how to brush off their own clothes. No getting out of wearing shoes because they're dirty! Same goes for clothing.
The jacket is not light but not heavy either, she likes it because its her favourite colour plus "warm and comfortable", plus its one she chose herself.

Anyway, the no jacket stage of her life only lasted a couple of days because she went outside for lunch whilst at School and was freezing/soaked by time she got back into the class so the teacher "advised" her to ALWAYS wear a jacket when weather is unpleasant.

Apart from today, we have had rain everyday this week so she has zipped her jacket, even today.

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Scottish Joan » Sat Jul 08, 2017 11:22 am

Rhona is now 9 and is getting bad behaved which is making me frustrated, she answers me back and takes bad temper tantrums when I punish her :( :(.

If its raining, I still ask her to zip up her jacket but she just tells me NO, I'm old enough to decide if I need my coat zipped up ", so me or the teacher do it ourselves but she moans " your embarrassing me" but we just say "if you did as we asked then we wouldn't embarrass you, we just want you suitably clothed in this bad weather so leave it zipped otherwise we keep on zipping it up, embarrassing you more".

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Laiorwyn » Sat Jul 08, 2017 5:00 pm

Have you had a look into the "positive parenting" website? It may help you come up with some good solutions.

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by Scottish Joan » Mon Jul 10, 2017 10:02 am

Laiorwyn wrote:Have you had a look into the "positive parenting" website? It may help you come up with some good solutions.
There is nothing on there :( :(.

I think its just her growing up and developing an attitude lol.

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Post by linsaa fdc » Wed Jul 12, 2017 6:39 am

What is the worst thing that can happen if she doesn't do up her jacket.......get sick!!!!
Maybe Rhona needs to find out for herself what happens and let her know that if she gets sick from not wearing it zipped up there are consequences and she will still be going to school.
Maybe Joan she is just too hot with it done up..... hard to believe sometimes when its cold outside and I can't even imagine how cold it is for you over there, but when I am rugged up and literally frozen and my grandson is running around in a shirt and undies so warm that he cuddles up to me to warm me up and to cool himself down.... maybe she is just too warm with it zipped.

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