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Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Postby Scottish Joan » Mon Apr 06, 2015 9:37 am

My daughter Rhona is 7 and doesn't like being cold or wet but on rainy days, will not fasten up the zip of her jacket but still complains at being wet/cold so, how can I get her to fasten her jacket, should I do it for her or would that be wrong?


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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Postby linsaa fdc » Mon Apr 06, 2015 1:01 pm

Hi Scottish Joan,
Funny kids...I personally believe there are so many not negotiable situations with children for their safety etc, don't worry yourself over this one. Make sure she can fasten it, maybe she has trouble with it and that's why she doesn't. Or get her a jumper if it is really cold and it worries you, or just wait and let her figure it out. Lastly if you are happy doing it for her and if she is happy for you to do it what is the harm, before you know it she will be a teenager and will want to be completely independent, don't worry about what other people think.
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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Postby Lorina » Tue Apr 07, 2015 5:19 am

Like Linsaa suggested she probably has difficulty zipping her jacket up that's why she is hesitant to do so. Maybe you can by a jacket with buttons instead or let your daughter choose a jacket she wants to wear. You could also make sure she wears layers under her jacket to stay warm. A singlet, a long sleeve top, a jumper then jacket on top. This way even though If your daughter keeps her jacket open she is still warm. A scarf to cover her chest and kneck it also a good idea.

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Postby Scottish Joan » Tue Apr 07, 2015 6:05 am

It is her school jacket which she loves to bits lol, she even wears it for daily use.

I have suggested layers but she doesn't like layers as it makes her look bulky.

I think she just likes mommy to zip her jacket because she can do it if she tries hard or has patience to.

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Postby linsaa fdc » Tue Apr 07, 2015 1:17 pm

Maybe try giving her a choice. Either wear a singlet as well or do your jacket up. Sometimes they like to feel as if they have made the decision.

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Postby Scottish Joan » Mon Apr 13, 2015 9:22 am

I let her go outside without her jacket fastened up just so that she could see how cold/wet it was and straight away she went back inside to get her hat which is a bonus (she never wears a hat or hood because "it messes her hair up") so it must have been really cold for her. She also fastened up her jacket herself and was so proud of herself :-).

Progress I would say.

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Postby Lorina » Tue Apr 14, 2015 5:06 am

Scottish Joan wrote:I let her go outside without her jacket fastened up just so that she could see how cold/wet it was and straight away she went back inside to get her hat which is a bonus (she never wears a hat or hood because "it messes her hair up") so it must have been really cold for her. She also fastened up her jacket herself and was so proud of herself :-).

Progress I would say.


Definitely progress! :thumbup: I guess sometimes we need to let our child be and let them experience "life" for themselves... Looks like she got the message loud and clear without you having to remind her! That's awesome! A step in the right direction I'd say!!

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Postby Scottish Joan » Mon Apr 27, 2015 11:03 pm

What a struggle I had getting her to fasten her jacket this morning :-(, she ended up being late for School due to it.

She was watching cartoons whilst eating her breakfast and was too busy concentrating on the cartoon that she lost track of time and also never heard me calling her to get ready.

I went into living room at 0850 and switched off tv and told her off for ignoring me so she then hurried to get her shoes, jacket and schoolbag on but she took 5mins to tie her shoelaces and was going to go out with a) her jacket wide open and flapping and b) no hood up or hat on so, I called her back, put the hood up for her and went to fasten the jacket (it was far too late to get her to do that herself because it takes 5mins for her to walk to school) but she moaned and then unfastened the jacket so I fastened it back up saying "its snowing (snowing in April yes) so you need your jacket zipped" so by time we got out door it was 9 which is when school starts.

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Postby Lorina » Tue Apr 28, 2015 2:55 am

Maybe she shouldn't be watching cartoons before school? So, she isn't distracted while getting ready for school. Don't worry sometimes you're going to have to fasten up the jacket for her but that's OK. Sometimes you can't wait around and you end up doing it. You're a mum, it's going to happen! Also, instead of calling out you will probably need to go to her and tell her "in 10 minutes Im switching the TV off so you can get ready for school". Then when you want her to get ready you go switch the TV off yourself and she can get ready. Just make sure you give her 2 or 3 warnings beforehand so she knows what to expect. When a child is focused on something they usually zone out everything else!

I'm sure it will get better!

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Re: Getting daughter to fasten her jacket up?

Postby linsaa fdc » Tue Apr 28, 2015 5:58 am

Hi Scottish Joan,
Why don't you swap your morning routine around. When she is completely ready and dressed for school....jacket and breakfast too....then she can watch tv for whatever time she has left. That might encourage her to get ready in a timely manner. In my experience tv before school if not done in the order I mentioned can cause every parent problems. It might take a week of standing your ground but she is a smart little girl and she should soon realize if she does it all quickly she will have lots of tv time. You have to stick to what you say, you might have a whole lot of tantrums in the short term but in the long run your morning will stop becoming a battle ground.
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